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Hello, I go by the name of Wenlene, which admittedly not a very common name devised by my parents. I hail from the Paris of Negros: Silay City. Currently, I go to school at the University of St. La Salle taking up a degree in AB Communication Arts.

In between doing homework and doing other stuff for school, I usually go on Tumblr during my free time and blog about something.  I acknowledege, most of the things I post seem reblogged but I post them anyways. Also, I read a lot of fan fiction. I like to read some possible scenarios by other people regarding what should or shouldn’t happen on their favorite shows or dramas. It keeps me busy when I get bored. In addition, by reading fan fiction, I get to imagine making my own stories too.  

Life for me nowadays has become difficult. Difficult because the simple things in life have lesser value now. People give the impression that they don’t appreciate life’s joys.  They will always find ways to complicate it thus making it more confusing and complex.  And, this makes me rather more sorry for myself because I don’t seem to measure up to its expectations.

When asked about me, my close friends may regard me as the odd yet caring girl who sometimes can be seen talking to herself because of having too many thoughts. They may also tell you that I prefer musicals compared to action flicks. There might be something about musicals that thrills me.

Men are different from women, it’s a fact about life. The way we look, the way act and the way we communicate are all entirely different.

The situation below is an example: 

A young woman and her fiancé are planning their upcoming wedding. It is a highly tension filled and exciting time for both of them. They are talking about the reception.

The woman asks her fiancé, “Which centerpiece do you think is best? Do you like the large one with all the flowers or the smaller one that has our engagement picture?”

The young man looks at both centerpieces, turns to his bride to be, and responds: “uh, I don’t care.”

The bride, who is very excited and emotionally “charged” about the upcoming wedding, looks at her beloved in disbelief, starts to cry, and runs from the room.

The young man is totally dumbfounded. He thinks to himself, “What did I do wrong?”

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The man was simply answering a question. He failed to realize that the way he replied had upset the woman. 

The woman reacted this way because she felt that the man really didn’t care. She thought that he was being mean but actually he was just giving his answer. 

Women are ruled by their emotions. When they are conversing with others, they tend to relate with that situation. They are more open in sharing their feelings because in this way, they’ll create a connection. Men on the other hand are more competitive and straight-forward. When they are asked a question, they automatically have an answer. They want to express themselves in just a few words unlike women who use several other words to convey what they’re feeling.

To finish, although men and women are different in various ways, they are equal as human beings. They think, understand, misunderstand, dream, hope, want, try, fail, succeed. Both genders desire dignity and respect; and can be disrespectful and rude.

Sources: 

http://www.my-counseling-site.com/gender_differences.html

 

Construct arguments to support one position then discuss
1. The responsibility for listening well is on the listener
2. The responsibility for being clear and interesting is on the person doing the most of the talking.

Okay..I’m not sure if this is right but this is how I discussed it with myself

Leni: You know Wen, I think The responsibility for listening well is on the listener. He must not only to be listening but also absorbing the information and comprehending it.

Wen: Oh? What makes you say that?

Leni: The listener must not only to be listening but also absorbing the information and comprehending it. This way the message is understood.

Wen: I disagree, I think that the responsibility for being clear and interesting is on the person doing most of the talk.

Wen: the speaker  should provide a story that is relatable because it dates, many-many years  ago.  This keeps the audience to  be able to imagine themselves as the receiver of the message.

                : that is also why if the speaker is a mumbler, the person he’s talking to might be confused of what he’s saying because he cannot speak clearly

Leni: Oh yeah? How come?

Wen: In engaging in a conversation, the person talking is straight to the point.  He must do this to deliver a clear message and have feedback back.

Leni: Really? I don’t know I still stand by #1. The listener’s role is heeding to get the message clearly. 

How do we perceive ourselves? Do we think that we are smart, pretty or just an ordinary person? This perception is what we call self-concept.

A lot of people today especially teenagers have negative self-concepts about themselves. They believe in what they see, what the media are showing them.  They believe that being beautiful requires rigorous diet that may harm their body’s well-being and to have plastic surgery to enhance their features. What they see in tv commercials and advertisement, they perceive to be the “ideal” person. They are blinded by the information presented by the media and instantly believe. Here are examples of some ads:

Although there is pressure on both men and women, I think the women are more prone to it. They work hard to be slim and sexy to please others and also are more prone to have “vanity adjustments” rather than the men. This is clearly shows that we have self-esteem issues bothering us. We are so convinced that becomimg the people we see in ads will make us more likeable but we are oblivious to it’s negative effects.

But what truly is beauty? It is only the exterior that matters and not the interior? I believe that being beautiful is not just about the looks. You got to have heart. The heart to believe in yourself no matter what happens, whenever people are pulling you down or when they are trying to make you miserable.

Have you stood in front of a crowd ready to judge and berate you for your imperfections without even taking a second look at you? Maybe most of us have, maybe most of us had taken it the wrong way. People put us down and we just let them, we let them have their way. I think we should follow Susan Boyle’s as a model for this situation.

Now, who is Susan Boyle? She used to be nobody but when she got into Britain’s Got Talent, she captivated the audience. When she first set foot on stage the audience was shocked to see her there. They wondered why she auditioned and what gave her the guts to do it. It was pretty awful to be judged by people you don’t even know. But, when she sang those first few lines of “I Dreamed a Dream” from Les Miserables, they were in awe. The people who were thinking that she was not good enough were clapping and they even gave her a standing ovation.

Susan Boyle is just a simple lady but she has become an inspiration. An inspiration to all that no matter how you look or how old you are, if you willing and believe in yourself you can to anything. There is no force or power that can hold you back.

What is Ethnocentrism? Ethnocentrism is the belief that one’s culture is better than others. This conviction of superiority often times leads to racism, prejudice and discrimination. Caucasians think that they are better than other races because of their skin color. They believe that they are superior than everyone which is not actually true because even though we are of different race, religion or sexual orientation, we have one common denominator: we all are human beings. True, we do have our first impressions and prejudices about others that seem strange or different but does this mean we should ignore and avoid them at all costs? Meeting or having a Muslim classmate is an example. People may tend to not notice him or pretend he isn’t there for fear that he might be dangerous. We should not let our prejudices rule us because this is what prevents us to communicate effectively and get to know other people and their various cultures.

(Source: notesinmind)